Think you could spot a Narcissist from a mile away? Don’t be so sure! Narcissists are very charismatic and can seem superbly warm and engaging. They can be the magnet of the party and they are able to get things done. They can have world class manners and a style that seems friendly and enjoyable. Narcissists can be the type that will help you out with anything… at least until you set a healthy boundary.
We all have our ups and downs. When we get down it can feel pretty overwhelming and it can be a long battle to overcome what got you there. Life beats us down, we neglect our health, we get tired...and depressed. Here are a few tips to battle the blues:
1. Probiotics- Did you know that there is a connection between poor gut health and depression? There are many ways to add probiotics to your diet; yogurt, Kefir (fermented yogurt drink), supplements. Make sure your brand is high quality. Not all brands are the same quality, you could be throwing your money out the window with no good health benefit. For example, low fat yogurts with
Guess where most of the nutrients of a carrot exist?
The skin or outer layer!
The power of a crunchy carrot with the skin on, is deliciousness with no guilt! A satisfying carrot crunch means powerful antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals, most of which exist along the outer portion of the carrot where most of us peel it off (collective gasp!).
Ever wonder why some diet programs say to avoid carrots? I think it is because most carrots have had many nutrients peeled off by the manufacturer, or you. Without the peel they are a sweeter variation of veggie. Those baby carrots are even known to be washed in a bleach solution to keep them fresh...ewe!!! So not only have they l
Mmm... mustard! I can hardly wait for the summer BBQ's! One of the best part of a good BBQ is a hamburger or hotdog slathered with delicious mustard!
I have been spending a lot of time studying nutrition these days. I realize how important it is to both physical and mental health. I love mustard, and can't wait to try different variations on this. I also think it would make a great gift (just add a ribbon to the top of the jar).
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I definitely have down days as a mom. The contrast between ideal and real is all too evident sometimes. As mom's we can't help but have a vision for our kiddos that involves their success in school, sports, friendships. We want to walk around every day as people notice how amazing our kids are, to the point that they can't help but stop us and say, "Your kid is just so wonderful!" Then in response, you desire to remain humble so you say, "Oh you are too nice," then they
One of the most common issues my female clients face is guilt about taking care of themselves. When I get all up in her grill about self care, phrases such as, "I feel so selfish," "I can't because I feel guilty" start to surface.
I get really annoyed when I hear the phrase, "She let herself go," because I know that is not the case. The real issue is that she is putting you first and her family first, her house first, her friends first, meals first, laundry first, groceries first, the kids homework first. Anyone who asks for help comes first and she comes last (of course this is all done with a smile on her face). She cares so much about others that she cannot seem to get around to taking care of herself. She's last on the list and there are only so many hours in the day.
Have you ever thought you were on a long detour only to discover that it was all a part of preparing you for something meaningful later on? There have been times in my life I have wondered, "what the heck am I doing this for?" Then, years later I see that I needed that skill, or experience, for something God was preparing me to do.
We have choices in those situations;
- To express frustration
- To become discouraged
- To let bitterness take root
- To seek God's presence
- To trust
- To pray
- To persevere
Can you think of anything in your life that was preparing you for the future? Sometimes endurance is what is needed. We are so used to quick fixes and solutions. Shoot, you can microwave meals in 5 minutes, go to a drive-through for lunch, pick up ready made pizza. We sometimes forget that life's lessons don't come that way.
"May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other." Romans 15:5
May God bless you on your journey.
Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light unto my path. Psalm 119:105
Was last year tough? Did it seem like you had more steps backward than forward? Did you feel alone in the struggle?
God promises to lead you down a path when you cannot see in the darkness. If you are confused or lonely or afraid, He will lead you forward if you look to him. I remember going to a cottage of a friend of ours that was in the deep woods. If you came in at night you had to park your car and then walk a long narrow path through the woods. It was so dark your eyes would not adjust to the sky so you could see where you were going. The only thing that was visible was the next step lit by a flashlight. After stepping over rocks, roots, and along the path, eventually we would make it to the front porch of the cottage. This experience really helped me to understand the above verse. Sometimes you really cannot see where God is taking you, and it seems dark as night in the woods. Only He can guide your footsteps.
Prayer; Lord, help me to look to you to light my life path when I cannot see where I am going. Help me not to get distracted by things going on around me. Help me not to give into despair but to trust that you are taking me to a better place.
Introducing Mrs. Lonely: How her core beliefs set her up for feeling badly and how she changed it.
In my counseling work I often ask clients to fill out worksheets using Cognitive techniques. The worksheets help clients develop greater insight. Often, what we think about life is deeply ingrained in us from early experiences. It is called internalization which I often describe as a process of absorbing messages that influence us throughout our lifetime. Children especially are like sponges soaking in every word and every attitude that comes their way. If our early experiences are mostly negative we often develop negative thinking patterns. Breaking those patterns is part of how therapy helps us move forward.
Why do women stay in less than satisfactory relationships?
It’s an age old question, why? Why on earth would a woman stay in a relationship with someone who is mean, controlling, manipulative or straight out abusive? There might be as many reasons as there are women (and yes, men can be in bad relationships too).
- She has low self-esteem.
- She doesn’t value herself or see that she can do better.
- She has an unhealthy attraction to the wrong kind of guy.
- She is desensitized to the poor treatment from being in it so long.