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Processing the Pain When a Friend Leaves

Processing the Pain When a Friend Leaves

Her phone calls seemed to get farther and farther apart.  She seemed distant and aloof and I started to wonder what was going on.  I considered her to be my closest friend.  We roomed together for years in a spacious, sunny apartment.  We had been through a lot together and had supported each other through hard times.  We also laughed a lot, and had code sentences that only we knew what they meant; private jokes built over years of closeness.  I wondered why she wouldn’t get back to me.  

by Gretchen Flores

Self-care Habits to Remember

Self-care Habits to Remember

Resolutions are common in January.  So many of us want to start out the new year with resolve to do things better.  When it comes to resolutions, make your own self-care important and a part of your daily life.  You don't have to do it all at once, but make sure you are doing something on a regular basis to prioritize your health and well being.  Here are some ideas to start with:

  1. Don’t feel guilty when you take time to take care of yourself, and remember that your needs matter too.  

by Gretchen Flores

What is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy?

What is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy?

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is defined by a commitment to change while also choosing to accept things the way they are.  The idea follows the line of thinking that, “psychological suffering” is caused by our inner language or cognition. When we are inflexible psychologically we lose a healthy connection with the present moment.

by Gretchen Flores

Have you ever had the "peace that surpasses understanding?"

What is the peace that surpasses understanding?  Is it even possible to have peace when everything seems so upside down and topsy turvy?  I read a lot of mainstream news and non-mainstream news, and to be honest with you there is a great deal of suffering in the world on a daily basis.  My heart hurts to see it.  I sometimes cry when I read the stories.  I listen to the stories told in my office and know that life can be full of heart wrenching pain.  Yet, there is a promise that we can have peace within our hearts that wouldn't otherwise be attained.  

Hold onto the promise that... 

by Gretchen Flores

Wearing an attitude of gratitude, an antidote for holiday blues.

Wearing an attitude of gratitude, an antidote for holiday blues.

I have tough days.  I am not always as resilient as I wish I was.  Sometimes I struggle, and there are some days I can really cop an attitude (yes, me).   It is much easier to dwell on the things that aren't going "right." I often only notice the gap between my ideal and what is real in my life.  It can be tempting to ruminate about it.  Very tempting.  "I wish..."

Developing attitude of gratitude is one antidote to the "poor me" syndrome.  It gets me back on track to choose to focus on

by Gretchen Flores

How to Know if You are With a Narcissist.

Think you could spot a Narcissist from a mile away?  Don’t be so sure!  Narcissists are very charismatic and can seem superbly warm and engaging.  They can be the magnet of the party and they are able to get things done.  They can have world class manners and a style that seems friendly and enjoyable.  Narcissists can be the type that will help you out with anything… at least until you set a healthy boundary. 

by Gretchen Flores

My top 5 Tips to battle Depression

We all have our ups and downs.  When we get down it can feel pretty overwhelming and it can be a long battle to overcome what got you there.  Life beats us down, we neglect our health, we get tired...and depressed.  Here are a few tips to battle the blues:

1.  Probiotics-  Did you know that there is a connection between poor gut health and depression?  There are many ways to add probiotics to your diet; yogurt, Kefir (fermented yogurt drink), supplements.  Make sure your brand is high quality.  Not all brands are the same quality, you could be throwing your money out the window with no good health benefit.   For example, low fat yogurts with

by Gretchen Flores

Stop! Don't Peel!

Stop!  Don't Peel!

Guess where most of the nutrients of a carrot exist?    

The skin or outer layer!  

The power of a crunchy carrot with the skin on, is deliciousness with no guilt!  A satisfying carrot crunch means powerful antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals, most of which exist along the outer portion of the carrot where most of us peel it off (collective gasp!).  

Ever wonder why some diet programs say to avoid carrots?  I think it is because most carrots have had many nutrients peeled off by the manufacturer, or you.  Without the peel they are a sweeter variation of veggie.  Those baby carrots are even known to be washed in a bleach solution to keep them fresh...ewe!!!  So not only have they l

by Gretchen Flores

Honey Mustard Recipe

Mmm... mustard!  I can hardly wait for the summer BBQ's!  One of the best part of a good BBQ is a hamburger or hotdog slathered with delicious mustard!

I have been spending a lot of time studying nutrition these days.  I realize how important it is to both physical and mental health.   I love mustard, and can't wait to try different variations on this. I also think it would make a great gift (just add a ribbon to the top of the jar).  

 

Here it is: 

by Gretchen Flores