Tis the season for intensified feelings of grief, despair, and loneliness. The feelings of sadness of the loss of a loved one increases exponentially during the holidays. The memories of past holidays together can flood the mind and intensify the feelings of loss. When our lives aren’t perfect and we look around at everyone else’s seemingly perfect lives, despair sets in with feelings of inadequacy. The feelings can spin around in our minds like a tossed salad with too much dressing, “They have an intact family, they have money to go skiing, they don’t have financial problems, their kids have good grades…
I have learned that it takes around 3 years for a bamboo plant to be fully established once it is planted. It will have long periods in which the plant doesn’t appear to be making any growth progress. It is during this time that growth is occurring underground within the root system. The roots are actively growing and pushing water up to the plant above ground.
thought about writing on the topic of grief this afternoon before I learned the news of the most recent school shooting. Hearing of the news of the shooting in Florida today reminds us that so many people are grieving every day. It's horrifying to hear of such news, and the tragedy reminds us that each day we live is a sweet blessing. Our hearts break for those affected by the senseless violence. Some of us grieve sudden and unexpected losses, similar to the one in the news today in Florida, and others grieve over time as loved ones suffer from a terminal illness or fragility from old age.
Identifiable stages of grief include; denial, anger, deep sadness or depression, bargaining, and acceptance.
Healthy couple relationships have some important shared components. If you want your relationship to thrive focus on developing your relationship in these areas.
Shared Interests- Couples need to have some interests that are shared. Interests such as sports, being outdoors, reading, shared faith, and similar views all help couples feel connected to each other. All interests don't have to be the same, but there needs to be enough shared interest to build a common bond.
Every single hour of every day, we have choices. We have choices about how we view what we are experiencing. Every choice we make is creating a habit, or a neural pathway, in our brain, that stays connected. The more we think a certain way, it becomes easier to travel down that path, because our neural synaptic connections are created and sustained by how we think. In other words, If we persistently think negatively, then we will have trouble seeing the positive, even if there is positive to be seen.
Last year, I noticed a much higher number of cancellations due to the flu than other recent seasons. My heart aches to hear the stories of people affected by the flu. Around 6 years ago I started on a quest for natural health and have learned a lot on the way. So far my family has been able to enjoy flu-free winters for several seasons now. Here are some ideas
Her phone calls seemed to get farther and farther apart. She seemed distant and aloof and I started to wonder what was going on. I considered her to be my closest friend. We roomed together for years in a spacious, sunny apartment. We had been through a lot together and had supported each other through hard times. We also laughed a lot, and had code sentences that only we knew what they meant; private jokes built over years of closeness. I wondered why she wouldn’t get back to me.
Resolutions are common in January. So many of us want to start out the new year with resolve to do things better. When it comes to resolutions, make your own self-care important and a part of your daily life. You don't have to do it all at once, but make sure you are doing something on a regular basis to prioritize your health and well being. Here are some ideas to start with:
- Don’t feel guilty when you take time to take care of yourself, and remember that your needs matter too.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is defined by a commitment to change while also choosing to accept things the way they are. The idea follows the line of thinking that, “psychological suffering” is caused by our inner language or cognition. When we are inflexible psychologically we lose a healthy connection with the present moment.
What is the peace that surpasses understanding? Is it even possible to have peace when everything seems so upside down and topsy turvy? I read a lot of mainstream news and non-mainstream news, and to be honest with you there is a great deal of suffering in the world on a daily basis. My heart hurts to see it. I sometimes cry when I read the stories. I listen to the stories told in my office and know that life can be full of heart wrenching pain. Yet, there is a promise that we can have peace within our hearts that wouldn't otherwise be attained.
Hold onto the promise that...